Thursday, December 29, 2016

The Photo Archives 2016 ~ A Year In Review


As 2016 draws to a close I wanted to do a Photo Archives Year in review by choosing two random Images I had taken during each Month of 2016.  Intentionally I am leaving out Milestone Imagery for any Month because you always intend to take those Images to immortalize the Moments in Time.  I think that subconsciously what we do randomly is more telling and less staged to reveal Life on the more ordinary of days in the Journey of it.


And because 2016 for us was a difficult year, as it was for many, I also wanted to see what random Imagery and thoughts to Photograph and Blog about brought me Comfort as we moved through it Month by Month.  I brought even more randomness to it by just picking a particular day's Photo Archived Folder randomly to choose an Image or two from.  These two were for January and thus it will go throughout the Post with random Musings accompanying it all. 


I do tend to Live my Life quite randomly for most days on Purpose as well... as an adaptation of sorts.  Because Caregiving can throw a wrench into any Carefully Planned day and it's just a lot less disappointing or frustrating not to have dashed Plans and live Spontaneously instead.  It also keeps you more Mindful in your Moments as you just randomly find them to Live in and not just exist.  Plans can be too distracting as you anticipate doing what the Future holds rather than what the Moment holds.


I stumbled randomly upon a Blog Today for example that had one of the best Quotes that will in the Future Inspire a Blog Post Title and Topic, but for now, in the Moment, I just contemplated the nugget of Profound Wisdom of.   

"Don't live your Life as a grim duty."


I'm very optimistic that 2017 will bring more promise and opportunities to seize.  I think we spent far too much time in 2016 in reactive mode rather than proactively living due to various crisis that unfolded unexpectedly.   Not that there weren't some Wonderful Moments in 2016, there were, but overall it was one of the tougher years we moved through.


I also let a lot fall by the wayside in 2016 since I'd been rather worn out by so many epic changes we moved through.   It seemed as though a major move would never end and relocating later in life with a lot more stuff proved that a major de-stashing had to be addressed and accomplished.  We're on the home stretch of that daunting Project now and I anticipate completing it sometime in 2017.


We've had bursts of energy and motivation to get things done around New Villa Boheme'... but overall we've stagnated due to the big Move taking so much out of us that we felt depleted.   As the year draws to a close though we looked back at how much we actually did get accomplished and it made us feel quite accomplished.   I think we were tough on ourselves with expectations being too grandiose and Reality just set in to not push quite so hard.


And not to put all focus upon just a select few Improvements and allow others to be forgotten.   I had forgotten about my motives to take better Care of my Health and dietary adjustments to stabilize the Diabetes and exercise more for example.   I paid the price for allowing that important Improvement to fall by the wayside as so many other things consumed me and I began just living a reactive life from problem to problem or crisis to crisis instead.


Some Months I found that I didn't indulge in my Photography or other Joyful pursuits very much at all, who knows Why.   In fact 2016 was a lean year for me Creatively across the board, Inspiration abounded and yet setting aside the Time to be Creative was lacking and nothing stifles Creativity like Time constraints and constant interruptions.  So I was on rather an involuntary Artistic hiatus in 2016 and I'm Hopeful the New Year allows me more Creative Opportunities.


I don't even recall why in May the absence of Photography makes that Month's archived folders so lean for example?   The haze of Months blurring into each other has kinda been the norm in 2016 making a sort of Amnesia Time Warp happen.  Very little except major Crisis and profound Loss even stands out with any distinction. 


I would like 2017 to be a Year of more distinctions and in the best possible way.  I want to be more Mindful to Live fully in the Moment and savor even the simplest of Pleasures thoroughly and with more clarity and intent.  Without all those jumbles of imposing thoughts that often intrude and can be a constant distraction.


We've decided to spend the last few days of 2016 doing some long neglected tasks.  With the help of The G-Kid Force I have been able to move some heavier furnishings Upstairs to finally get those Living Spaces in Order and de-stash some of the hoarded Garage Spaces.   Those being the last bastions of New Villa Boheme' that overwhelm me completely when I consider the monumental task of doing what needs to get done there before the heat of Spring makes it harder.


Unlike many climates the Desert Dweller tends to postpone larger Projects in the Spring and Summer when it's just too insanely Hot to tackle them.   I don't want to spend yet another Summer wishing we'd gotten more done in the temperate Months of Winter while we could.   And yet Winter brings with it a dormancy of hibernating urges that are quite hard to resist!


I've been particularly Slothful after the Big Move, expending most of my Energy in the doing of it and then having a sort of involuntary recuperative time necessary to recharge and regain enthusiasm to press forward.   I just petered out to the point where a jump start has to be quite intentional now and I'm Thankful that The Force noticed and Volunteered to Help more to get it going again!


I had The Young Prince being my Sherpa for moving the Antique Door Hoard from the Garages to the Upstairs Art Studio Loft where they will reside as Decor.  Suffice to say he won't now need a Gym Membership, the Workout he's getting Helping Gramma will be more than sufficient!  *Smiles*


The Man wobbled around like a Weeble for a while wanting to Help but he was just too unstable and having too many Winter Respiratory Issues to be of any assistance.   I know that bothers him a lot, having to see the Children and I do all the heavy Work and being Powerless to do what he'd always done with ease for me in the Past.  Chronic Illness and profound Disability can be so Humbling and Humiliating, can't it?


But one of the high points for us in 2016 has been his slow but steady Progress in rehabilitating himself beyond the wildest grim prognosis Doctors had projected!   We may never end up where we were at before his Catastrophic Accident but Thank God we aren't where we used to be!  A Testimony of Miracles have ensued in his continued Healing of a near fatal brain injury where no Hope was extended by the Medical Community!


Regardless of whatever Challenges have come up... whatever Crisis have had to be moved through this year... whatever profound Losses we've had to Grieve... I prefer to focus upon the Silver linings in every Cloud and Dark Day.   Those glimmers that sustain us and shine even the tiniest of Light upon our Path in the Darkness.   Even a sliver of Light chases away the Darkness around it and illuminates just enough to see again.


Our Holiday Season for 2016 was bittersweet... again.   But because we've had past bittersweet Holidays we have had enough experience that we rebounded and were able to still Experience some of the Joy of it all regardless.  Just because you endure some Issues Of Life does not mean you still cannot find something to Rejoice about or Celebrate... sometimes simultaneously in fact with the dealing of the unlovely stuff.


The Month of October now will forever be remembered as the Month that I Lost my Dear Mom... my Dad also Passed during the Holiday Season many years ago.  There is something about Profound Grief and Loss that also makes you appreciate Life so much more profoundly though.  The intensity that I Experienced this Holiday Season was magnified by my Loss in fact... yet again.


And I think that as the Seasons of Life advance it's a 'Given' that stuff will just happen throughout a Year, any given Year.  And be those most poignant Memories, Positive and Negative... all mixed together and often randomly playing out in the Journey.


We got through yet another Year... not without some casualties... not without some challenges.    And having a Year in review has helped me to reflect upon 2016 and realize it may not have been the very best of times... but it certainly wasn't the very worst of times either in retrospect.  We've had tougher Years... we've had better Years... that's just how it often goes.


And it will therefore be Memorable in a variety of ways... not all Good, but not all Bad either.   There was just enough of a balance of each to make us Grateful and it's very difficult to keep a Grateful Heart down.  Just enough to enlarge our Empathy and Compassion even more for those 'Going Through' and that is truly Priceless.  Therefore worth being Thankful for the Purpose of Trials making us more enlightened, tender towards others and experiencing growth.


So here's to entering a brand New Year with Enthusiasm, with Hope, with Joy and Faith intact my Friends.   Because the antithesis of that would not at all be the Person I'd want to present to the World at all or live with daily in my own skin.


Here's to a Happy and Prosperous New Year my Friends... with Love from the Arizona Desert... Dawn... The Bohemian

Wednesday, December 28, 2016

Winter Break... Or... The Great Sleep-In

The G-Kid Force began Winter Break just before Christmas... I like to call it The Great Sleep-In.   We can go to bed late and wake up whenever we want to, which is much, much later than a School Day!  Yay!  Out itinerary is Open and Free as a Bird!  *Double Yay!*  No rushing Home, no rushing anywhere!  We can do those decadent things like Road Trips anywhere around the Valley... and so we do!   This day is was Uptown to Scottsdale Fashion Square Mall to window shop and Imagine Shopping High End.  *Smiles*

Princess T and I could be very High Maintenance Gals *Winks*... actually I think she will be... her Man better have deep pockets because this Child has exquisite Taste already!  *Ha ha ha*  She can spot the Good Stuff as if she has built in Natural radar for it and be discerning about Fashion and Decor like any Professional Stylist... so we often call her The Stylist or The Fashionista!

So in Neiman Marcus she almost lost her Mind when she walked into the Little Girl's Department and saw The Fashions!  *Think akin to Rachel Zoe's Obsession with Fashion!  LOL*  Of coarse her instincts gravitated her to the most expensive of the Party Dresses... this one was seventy-nine bucks, but it was exquisite and our unanimous favorite!  I'm just surprised she didn't make me photograph her faux-modeling every dress in the entire department!  *Smiles*  We also People watched and Critiqued the Fashions as if we were the Fashion Police!  *LOL*  But truly it was a Treat to see so many folks with exquisite Taste and High Fashion in one place... like a breath of Fresh Air!

But the three story Mall was packed with Post-Christmas Shoppers and a madhouse so we didn't stay long since really we weren't intent on buying anything and we both Hate crowds.  We were hungry and lines at the Food Court were insane, so off to The Spaghetti Factory we headed to inner city Phoenix... it's our Fav Haunt, loaded with Antiques and Historic Ambiance plus great food.

Over Dinner we discussed The Mall... she agreed that the High End Malls are her absolute Favs since most Malls around the Valley have mos def jumped the shark in recent years and so we tend to avoid them like the plague.   When a Mall circles the drain the vacancy rates are epic and the stores that are left aren't Selling anything we'd remotely want to Buy or are of questionable taste in merchandise.  We laughed that we're just not in the market for assless pants and such. *LMAO* 

 I am actually relieved her Taste level in Wardrobe and Style is of a higher standard and caliber since she's Blossoming into a Young Woman quite early!  *Whew!*   Early Bloomers are nerve wracking when you're Parenting, she's only Eleven but already beginning to Look and Act like a Young Woman and not a Child... scary stuff for The Man and I!!!  When it comes to a Girl Child I would much rather raise a Late Bloomer!  *Winks*   I know that sounds totally Gender biased... and it is... but since both of our Daughters were Teen Moms it just scares me when Young Girls Mature too early!   BTW: I Want one of those Urns with large Orchid Displays in my Master Bathroom en suite!

The Images are totally crap since I had to shoot them thru two panes of glass at a distance {sorry}... but I had to show you the bling miniature Christmas Window Shadowbox Displays at Tiffany's!   Those mini Chandies were off the hook Fabulous... and I know I now want to Create some of those blinged out Christmas Tree Cones utilizing Orphaned Antique Bling.   I've seen them around Pinterest and various Blog sites but to see one in person was Stunning and our Eyes Danced with Delight beholding them!

Our noses were pressed up against the exterior Windowpane glass like excited Children and she insisted I keep snapping off shots just so we'd have some Inspiration, however vague, for the ones we now intend to Create at Home for a Fun Winter Project right up our Alley.  I've got all kinds of Salvaged Antique and Vintage Bohemian Bling so our Bling Christmas Tree Forrest will only lack the mini Chandies... Lord knows I don't know where you'd Score those?!?  *Smiles*  

via: Pinterest

We'd also seen Mehndi Artists at The Mall and decided that she and her Brother need to start honing their Mehndi Skills practicing on Gramma.   We have all of the supplies and Inspiration Books galore on Body Painting Styles so I'm Game to be their Muse.  *Winks*  I've always been a Fan of Body Art and the temporary kind like Mehndi gives you much more Artistic Expression without a sense of permanence to having to wear just one Design for a lifetime.  I rarely wear the same Wardrobe daily so my Body Art I like to be more varied as well.

 via: Pinterest

Having enthusiastic Artists at Home willing and able to Art me up is an In-House Bonus.  *Smiles*   Both of The G-Kid Force are already quite accomplished at Art and Practice can only improve upon those Natural Skills they possess and thoroughly Enjoy when they're Creating anything.   So Yes, Winter Break is giving us the opportunity to indulge in The Great Sleep-In as well as indulge ourselves in our Fantasies and delve deeply into whatever Inspires us during our days when we finally roll out of bed.  How about you my Friends... what Post-Christmas activities have you been immersed in?


Blessings from the Arizona Desert... Dawn... The Bohemian 

Tuesday, December 27, 2016

Days Without Medications... Or... The Conflicted Caregiver

The Young Prince, out of the necessity that his poor body couldn't take it anymore, has been off his psychotropic medications for most of the Month of December now by Doctor's Orders.  The careful slow detoxing process of reducing them down until none were being taken has finally been successfully accomplished. No more withdrawals is a relief, but Emotionless facial effects are becoming more the norm and I know reduced affect display is symptomatic of the disorder.  His now often flat affect is something I will just have to be wary of since it can disguise true Feelings or a lack thereof of any at all.

 As his Caregiver I have felt very conflicted... on the one hand I'm as jubilant as he's been that he no longer has to take large amounts of strong medications to manage his serious mental health issues.  On the other hand his serious mental health issues are no long being managed by medications and so we maneuver this minefield of behaviors cold turkey.  Because we have to since the alternatives were physically becoming too grave to risk the serious side effects of anymore.   Choosing the lesser of two evils is always a bitch...

 As my Nanna used to say, this places us between the devil and the deep blue sea... which I didn't even know was a 1930's era Song, I just knew it was a place I didn't care to be.  Because choosing between a devil or the deep blue sea just seemed like facing either would be exhausting, scary and potentially life threatening, you know?   I have a finite amount of energy and stamina so treading water and fighting devils is something I'd rather avoid.  But avoidance isn't an option, it's one or the other choice... if one can call it that... since I feel Choice was taken out of the equation a long, long time ago in a land far, far away.

He's doing way better than I ever expected him to and I confess that has been a huge relief and something to definitely rejoice about.  However, it has not come without some major adjustments... such as he barely sleeps anymore, among other things.  And by that I mean he could be up eating and rummaging thru various parts of the house at the most ungodly hours imaginable and any hour could be a brand new day for him!  Or, he might not come out of his room except under Protest and with the countenance of a Grizzly being forced out of hibernation too early.  Or animated to the point of me having to help him land his balloon lest it drive the rest of us insane!

And the amount of destroyed objects coming out of his room have escalated and the re-cycle trash is often now filled with them.  Yesterday it was his Musical Keyboard... this day it was a very large foam Demon prop of the type Spirit Store sells for Halloween that he previously thought was way Cool, begged to have and wanted as decor, but now had been hacked to shreds... clearly in battle his own Demons had won that particular confrontation and release. 

 A mutilated Demon looked even more grotesque than it had before... I didn't even ask... I just asked that he try to resist and refrain from hacking any more objects to shreds... especially the expensive ones... Thank You.  The Man just Calmly stuffed conquered Demon in the recycle bin.  So much for recycling an expensive Demon by hawking it in the Showroom, Yes, Oddly stuff like that Sells well, but clearly not in this shape!  *LOL*   But, it did beat him cutting or mutilating himself... been there, done that... better it be this hideous prop I never was fond of anyway, good riddance.   Now it's just the unseen Demons we battle daily.

I've retrieved dishes from the rooftop after he's just chucked them out the upstairs window because he didn't think they could be adequately washed clean!  Little Sister ratted him out only because he'd previously chucked one of her mini dolls out there on the rooftop too... far enough she'll just have to wash down in a rainstorm or have the Solar installation Guys retrieve her for us.   I asked how Dolly had ended up on the Roof, he couldn't say for Sure, so we had a Come To Jesus Moment about no more things flung out of windows upstairs... or even upstairs windows being opened... lest I flip the Hell out.

 I am coming to terms with bizarre behaviors now being the order of the day and something we'll just have to roll with and monitor carefully.  I've learned to laugh about the absurd rather than screw myself into the ceiling about any of it.  It could actually make great Comedic fodder, after all... you can't make shit like this up!  *Smiles*   Though I would like to Believe that my Come To Jesus talks with him sink in deep enough they will be Obeyed, it's unlikely during Psychotic Moments he'll have presence of Mind to have a modicum of Obedience.  Deciding consequences for disobedience during a Mental Health Episode or simply because a Child has the Illness is one of those Parenting dilemmas not easily resolved.  School Administrators never quite 'Get' that Fact.

I am trying to ignore unbrushed, unwashed tangled locks and him peeking at me thru hair hanging across his face.  Of clothing ripped to shreds in the most bizarre places that you know are not accidental and he can offer no explanation of.  Battles about general hygiene for a Sixteen year old with SMI have to be addressed diplomatically and with great compassion that it can be hard to establish consistency for him or even a desire to Care.  I take it one day at a time and see where it all leads us since this will be the new 'normal' for he and I in his daily living and coping with the changes that have and will continue to occur and evolve.  We discuss it all candidly and openly when he's willing and able to.  Tho' sometimes I'm the confidant and sometimes I'm the perceived enemy and have to just back off.

Over the two generations of raising seriously mentally ill children I have learned to be an adept Reader of the Eyes.   I pay very close attention to the Eyes, they are indeed the Windows to the Soul and are of particular importance to pay attention to when dealing with the tortured Soul.  Because it gives you some crucial lead time to recognize pupil dilation indicators before an episode or incident pops off!   To be forewarned it to be forearmed, my Reaction time is now instinctively and subconsciously pretty damned instantaneous!

 And to know when Euphoric or Dysphoric Mania is setting in and they're getting Sick has become second nature.  Since Mania is tricky and devious... so not always easy to recognize and can be camouflaged on purpose.  You have to recognized the Dark Places early on to avert full blown Crisis and keep communication Open and 100% if possible, they have to be able to tell you anything... and you have to be able to handle the Truth.  Living reactively isn't Ideal and so I attempt to be as proactive as I possibly can manage to be. 

I find myself more hyper vigilant because his days without medications aren't as numerous as his years medicated were so I don't always know what to expect now with him... so I expect the unexpected.  Instinctive Parenting kicks in and this is not my first rodeo with the un-medicated Bipolar or Borderline Personality Disorder Child or Adult, so I'm not without tonnage of Experience in dealing with days... even Years without medications.   I have no Degrees or advanced Education about these illnesses, just Hard Knocks Life in the Living of it daily for what sometimes seems like an Eternity.  You learn not to expect much Real Help from the Medical Community, where there is no Cure there is usually a level of general Apathy.

So Yes, right now I am indeed the Conflicted Caregiver... where you sit on that proverbial fence some days of knowing you should do something... and yet also knowing there is nothing that can be done... and trying to have equanimity about it.  We are mostly doing Fine and I'll take Fine... and we'll deal with crossing those other bridges on the far side of Fine when we come to them... and try to stay equanimous enough not to burn any of those bridges behind us.


Blessings from the Arizona Desert... Dawn... The Bohemian  

Monday, December 26, 2016

Post-Christmas Camps... Rushing Or Languishing?

There seems to be two Post-Christmas Camps... those who Rush to take it down and put it all away with a sense of Urgency... or those that Languish in it, usually 'til at least past the New Year ringing in.   Or as one of my BFF's and The Man likes to joke regarding me... 'til mebbe February... or longer!   *LOL*

It's True, I am of the Post-Christmas Languishing Camps and in absolutely no Rush to take it all down and put it all away.  Actually I never have an actual Deadline to banish any Holiday and it's evidence of being Celebrated from our Home.   However, the BFF that likes to joke with me about that is of the most Urgent of Post-Christmas Rushing Camps, even when she has a fake Tree!  *LMAO*

It's a Wonder she isn't dismantling Christmas before the Christmas Wrapping Papers are even carted off to the recycling bin!  *Bwahahahaha!*   She lives with one of her Adult Daughters and Family... I told her to slow her roll and let those Grandbabies and the Daughter languish ever so slightly in the Atmosphere of Christmas for as long as they Need to.  Without pressure to eradicate it from their Home instantly as the clock struck Midnight Christmas Day!  *Smiles*

I don't know whether she will be able to stand to or not... it used to make her twitch that her BFF {me} still sometimes had the Decor and Tree up 'til February!   And just hang some Rusty Home-Made Metal Hearts on it for Valentine's Day if I hadn't yet had the Urge to take it all down and put it away!  *Bwahahahaha!*  I actually have those Hearts handy just in case... *Winks*

Hell, who am I kiddin', I have those Hearts handy becoz it's gonna happen, there's no just in case it might happen about it... so she and I laughed about it.   Yeah, you got that Valentine's shit all ready to just swap out on them Trees don't you Dawn she says... and just how many Trees did you put up this Christmas?  {Clearly she knows me well...}  Only four I says... well, mebbe five {I'm counting in my head as we spoke... just how many DID I have?}... IF you don't count the really small tabletop Trees that are Bottlebrush ones... Okay... so a whole freakin' Forrest Kathie... I have a Forrest of them!  *Winks* 

And I had The Man out pickin' Cotton for the faux Snow effect too again this Christmas... so there!   Yes, clearly I'm out of Control again when it comes to the Holidays!  *Winks*   And anyway, where's my freakin' Card from you GF and don't think that sparkly FB forwarded crap was gonna cut it... look... I have holes in my Card Vignette coz yours is missing!  See, I can bust her chops too coz we're like Sisters and have Sibling Type banters like that about our individual Quirks and idiosyncracies!   Okay so we're both Nuts and Certifiable, that's why we're like Family and so close I suppose!?  *Smiles* She's the Grinch at Christmastime and I'm Christmas on Steroids... Yin & Yang... it kinda balances out!  *Ha ha ha*

Besides, the other OCD one in the house Loves Gramma's Forrest of Trees... see, she's moved all her new Christmas crap out into the Forrest Downstairs to Live apparently!   *Le Sigh*   Yes, her stuff is migrating again... down the stairs and into other Living Spaces of New Villa Boheme'!  She claims it will help keep her Room cleaner... since she did finally tackle the Hoard up there and clean it! So that if her Uncle inspected it during his Christmas Eve visit she wouldn't have to hear his Rant about being cleaner for Gramma's sake!  *Smiles*

You see, The Son was a very clean and organized Child so I never had any problems with him.  But his Sister, the Mother of The G-Kid Force, well, she was just like them... or they're just like her... and that means one extreme or the other... rigid organization or complete chaos... at the flip of a coin and turning on a Dime!   But Princess T's Dollhouses, well, if only the Real House could look so well maintained with her in it... that would be Swell!  *LOL*

Of coarse, the Wednesday Addams Beast Princess has been known to spend literally HOURS setting these Dollhouses up like this meticulously and then shake the Hell out of them laughing and gleefully saying EARTHQUAKE!!!  And often her Room does look as if an earthquake might have hit it... and I'm not exaggerating.  Either that or I should put Crime Scene Tape up around the parameters of it!?

But I ain't gonna lie... it adds to the Enchantment of Christmas to have the evidence of Childlike Wonder scattered about our Home like this... Lingering.  So as long as it's neat and not in earthquake mode, I'm Okay with it.   And she was Happy that I Photographed all her hard work to Share with everyone, because she did spend a lot of time setting it all up and without destroying it YET.  Don't worry, she'll get the Urge... I can tell by that 'Look' in her Eyes! *Winks* 

Yep, THAT 'Look'... the maniacal one... you see it too, right?  And if you don't, well, the aftermath when she Triggers will blindside ya, that's all I gotta say about that.  *Ha ha ha*   And The Other One... well, he can only stand so much 'Merry' before his Christmas is Complete... so he'll mos def be like my BFF.   I won't expect to see much, if any, evidence of Christmas in his Home when he grows up and invites me over?!  I'm assuming he'll invite me over for the Holidays... tho' he might worry I'd bring the 'Merry' with me?!?  *Ha ha ha*   He will remind me of an Old Friend I once had, he used to put a Pine sprig in a Wizard Statue's hand and call it a Christmas Tree!  Ah, Clay, that always made me Smile you heathen!  *Bwahahaha!*

So anyway, my Living Room looks like this the day after Christmas... and Trees and Decor and Shopkin Villages are up all over the place and will be for a while and I don't Care.   And sometimes we Need the 'Merry' to be extended because Life happens.  We found out Christmas Day that my Mother-In-Law spent Christmas in the Hospital and isn't likely to be allowed to come back Home.  So it was somber, anxious and unexpected News for The Man to Process and with his TBI his Coping skills are compromised considerably.  So it was hard to receive... and having Christmas Atmosphere with Cheer surrounding him helped him remain Calm and have Optimism in Faith that she's in Good Hands.

I remember moving thru those most difficult Life situations and decisions with both my Dad... and then my Mom many years later... and even The Man after his catastrophic accident... and it's never easy.  Sometimes they recover enough to be Cared for in the Home and sometimes they Need the Long Term Care or Hospice Care when that is no longer possible or won't happen.  You have to find your place of Peace about it all and for each person that is a Process with no distinct deadline either.   I don't happen to Like deadlines... things sometimes take however long they take and I'm Okay with that... perhaps that is why I'm of the Post-Christmas Camp of Languishing and not Rushing?

Of the ilk of those who Feel that surrounding oneself with what brings you Joy and Merriment has absolutely no reason to be Rushed or banished as soon as possible.   Lord knows that as Life unfolds there will be enough that does NOT bring anyone Joy nor Merriment... that will Languish and Linger long past when it should just end and be done with.   We often have no Control over any of that... but Joy and Merriment, well, it's more of an Option isn't it?  We CAN choose Joy and Merriment whenever we Need it... perhaps I Need it more than most, I dunno... I just know it Feels Good so why Rush past it?  Why not Languish in it for as long as we Need or Want to?

And if by chance you don't Need or Want to that is Okay too... I'm not saying one Camp is Right or Wrong... I just know I'm in the Right Camp for ME and mine.   Even The Young Prince confesses that tho' he can only take so much 'Merry' in his Christmas... he knows he can always Find it at Gramma's House. And that can always be a Sanctuary to Retreat to because we keep it here intact and not just at Christmastime, but every day I possibly can manage it!  And it's in my Heart ALWAYS... that Spirit of Christmas... it never leaves completely.  I simply won't allow any devil in Hell to Steal my Joy, my Faith nor my Hope and Love!  And you shouldn't either my Friends... Guard it!!!

It has Great Power... and that is why the thief comes to Steal it.  That devil doesn't want your stuff... he wants your Joy, your Hope, your Faith and your Peace... and if even during the Darkest Hours you maintain it all with Merriment intact... you will stay Rock Solid my Friends.   Don't freely relinquish the Power you have been given and perhaps don't even realize is within you.   It was the Greatest Gift in fact given during this Season... His Gift to the World... and I Cherish it enough to Guard it Carefully and Celebrate it daily, not just Christmas Day.

And so an outward Celebration Languishing of that inner Joy is just a Natural for me to want to Linger in and Savor.   It's like Manifesting outwardly what you Feel inwardly to Share it with those around you... or even just for yourself if nobody else happens to Appreciate it... matters not.   I do it for the sheer Joy of it and if it Ministers to the Soul of anyone else that is a Beautiful Bonus in the Sharing of it.

And I will extend the 'Merry' of my Christmas for as long as I Feel like it... and I Welcome you to join in the Merriment with me anytime you Feel like it too my Friends... all are Welcome as you Need or Want to join in... or not.   I can respect the other Camp's options enough not to even try to sway you... whatever Post-Christmas Camp you are of is Okay.   But it is a random musing I thought would make for an Interesting Post... I'd like to hear from the other Camp about your own Sentiments regarding the Rushing, it is a Safe place to Share why you could be Done with it all right away.  I Suspect in fact that the Commercialization of the Season and premature Display of it all could be a contributing factor?

But regardless of which Post-Christmas Camp you're in... I do Hope yours was a Blessed and Memorable Christmas Season my Friends!!!


Post-Christmas Blessings from the Arizona Desert... Dawn... The Bohemian

A life touched by God always ends in touching others. - Erwin McManus

I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars. - Og Mandino (1923-1996)

For creativity to flourish one should try to look at everything as though it were being seen for the first or the last time. - Quote from "A Thousand Paths To Creativity" by David Baird

Is what I'm about to say an improvement on silence? ~ Galen Pearl